Are you planning a night on the town? Are you interested in meeting someone outside of your own social circle? The check out these twelve tips to get you ready to meet someone new!
These tips are primarily for meeting someone new when you go to a party, club, or bar. I know that meeting someone at the bar is not the only place to meet new people, but it is a place where you might go to hang out with your friends anyway – so why not make it an opportunity to meet someone new?
- Wear something unique or funky when going out. It is a great conversation starter – where did you get those socks?! And don’t forget that people do dress to impress, so if you see someone wearing something cool or interesting – pay them a compliment.
- Hit the town in threes. If you do end up striking up a conversation with a cool guy, then your friends won’t feel awkward because they could just talk amongst themselves and leave you alone. And the guy won’t feel like he’s intruding either. It’s a win-win.
- Smile. Nothing makes you more approachable than if you are smiling, happy and having fun.
- If you find someone attractive and approachable – talk to them! Pay them a compliment, I love your sweater! Even if it might be a regular black sweater, it’s better than trying to use a cheesy pick up line. Guys love it when girls talk to them, so do it! If you’ve been exchanging glances with a fellow all night, then approach him. It will take the pressure off and he’ll definitely take note of your confidence.
- Talk to more than one person. You’re not asking any one to marry you! Relax. Know that it is a numbers game and if you talk to more than one person, then you’re increasing your odds of getting a number and hanging out with someone new. Not only that, if people see you working the room – you become a hot commodity and all guys love a little competition.
- Ask him for his number, especially if he approached you. If you like the person that approached you, he might still be trying to feel a vibe from you. If you are like one of my shy friends, you might be unknowingly sending out mixed messages. So take the lead and ask him for his number. It will make him feel more comfortable and let you have the power to make the next move.
- Get out there on the dance floor. Don’t be bashful. Everyone is always so self-conscious when they dance because they think that everyone is looking at them, but people rarely pay attention to others dancing because they are just as self-conscious. Do you stare at people when they dance? I didn’t think so. So if a guy asks you to dance, go for it.
- Wander around by yourself. Don’t stand in one spot or at one table with your friends all night. Walk around, look at people, and smile. You might see someone you know or want to get to know. At the very least, you will know exactly where the restrooms are.
- Watch your body language. Are you talking to someone with your arms crossed over your chest? Are you stiff and robotic? People gauge body language more than process what is being said. Make sure that your body language is approachable and sending out the right message.
- Don’t get hammered. Slurring and puking is not sexy.
- Don’t be afraid to talk to someone of the same sex. I’m not saying switch teams or anything, but when you are waiting in line or waiting for a drink, don’t be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone as a friend. Not every conversation has to lead to a phone number or make-out session in the back. We’re all out there to have fun and who knows – they might have a cute guy friend sitting at their table watching.
- Ask questions! This is the question that I get from guys and girls all the time. How do I talk to someone? Ask them questions! People love to talk about themselves and the more they are talking about themselves, then the less talking you have to do. Have some easy, non-intrusive questions ready: Have you been here before? What do you do? What are you drinking? I knew a girl who would memorize really obscure facts and use them as ice-breakers: Did you know that sea otters are the only mammals, besides humans, who have sex purely as enjoyment? Whatever works as an ice breaker for you, use it.
The real reason people go out is to have fun. Don’t feel pressured to have to do anything you don’t want to do, but make it a priority to have fun. You didn’t get dressed up for nothing!
CREDIT: http://www.bukisa.com/articles/38162_12-tips-for-meeting-someone-new-off-line#ixzz0tVVTySle
